August 9, 2018. Written by Courtney N. Shale.
Live Those Dreams You Had When You Were Younger- Your 10 Year-Old Self Will Thank You For It
Once upon a time I was 10 years old with a passion and a dream that I hadn’t even realized. I liked to dress up and play host whether that consisted of serving fake tables plastic food in my basement, throwing beanie-baby get togethers in my brother’s bunk bed or begging my parents to let me have friends over for “themed” sleepovers.
I enjoyed making people laugh and hosting so much that it turned into an every weekend ordeal that followed me through middle school, high school, college and into starting my own event planning business.
I think the best part is my Mom and Dad once told me “Courtney, if being a professional party planner was a job, that’s what you should be when you grow up”. At the time it was 2005 and they said “was” because event planning wasn’t nearly as big as it is today and that job seemed too far fetched as a career.
“Professional Party Planner”, or Triple P, seemed too good to be true while growing up. I never understood how someone could just say “I’m going to do X with my life” and making a living out of it. I remember being told day in and day out “Graduate high school, go to college, get a good job and stay there until you retire. That’s a good life”.
Well, that mindset led me to be extremely underwhelmed over big accomplishments. I didn’t celebrate when I graduated high school because I felt that it was just an expectation checked off the list. I tried to be thrilled and over-the-moon ecstatic when I graduated college, but that too ended up feeling like another expectation checked off the list. I buried my passions deep down and fought hard to get a “good job” out of college and I ended up hating it in the long run and quit 7 months later after putting my business on hold. Why? Because this outdated “good life” norm doesn’t suit everyone anymore.
To get to the point, I’m here to say it’s okay if you feel stuck, confused, overwhelmed and unsure of what you want to do in life. It’s okay to feel lost. It’s okay to hate your job. We all go through it.
But what I’m also here to say is that you can make all of that go away if you want to. You don’t have to stay at that job. You don’t have to feel overwhelmed with mundane tasks that make you think “why should I care?”. You don’t have to have the same routine day after day after day and only live for the weekends.
All you have to do is take some time to get to know yourself again. What makes you happy? What do you enjoy doing? What would you do if time, money and resources didn’t matter? What makes you want to do a happy dance in the middle of your living room?
Figure that out and chase after it. Be you. Find your why. Do what you love. Take that leap of faith. Live those dreams you had when you were younger. Your 10 year old self will thank you for it.